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Respect the divine order

Principle 31 from the Enchiridion

Value character above outcomes you cannot control. Where we place our ideas of good and bad shapes how we respond when events go against us.

Original Passage

Be assured that the essential property of piety towards the gods is to form right opinions concerning them, as existing and as governing the universe with goodness and justice. And fix yourself in this resolution, to obey them, and yield to them, and willingly follow them in all events, as produced by the most perfect understanding. For thus you will never find fault with the gods, nor accuse them as neglecting you. And it is not possible for this to be effected any other way than by withdrawing yourself from things not in our own control, and placing good or evil in those only which are. For if you suppose any of the things not in our own control to be either good or evil, when you are disappointed of what you wish, or incur what you would avoid, you must necessarily find fault with and blame the authors. For every animal is naturally formed to fly and abhor things that appear hurtful, and the causes of them; and to pursue and admire those which appear beneficial, and the causes of them. It is impossible, then, that one who supposes himself to be hurt should be happy about the person who, he thinks, hurts him, just as it is impossible to be happy about the hurt itself. Hence, also, a father is reviled by a son, when he does not impart to him the things which he takes to be good; and the supposing empire to be a good made Polynices and Eteocles mutually enemies. On this account the husbandman, the sailor, the merchant, on this account those who lose wives and children, revile the gods. For where interest is, there too is piety placed. So that, whoever is careful to regulate his desires and aversions as he ought, is, by the very same means, careful of piety likewise. But it is also incumbent on everyone to offer libations and sacrifices and first fruits, conformably to the customs of his country, with purity, and not in a slovenly manner, nor negligently, nor sparingly, nor beyond his ability.

Epictetus (Enchiridion)

Modern Interpretation

Here is one everyday case. Epictetus connects reverence with judgment. If we place our highest ideas of good and evil in outcomes we cannot control, we are likely to resent fate, life, or God whenever events go against us.

He places moral value mainly in intention, choice, and character. Then disappointment does not have to turn into the belief that the universe has betrayed us.

Outward religious practice should also be sincere and proportionate, not careless or performed for attention. What is shown outside should fit what is believed within.

For a nonreligious reader, the same basic point remains: where we place value shapes how we respond when life changes.

In Practice

Here is one everyday case. After a painful setback, you catch yourself saying, "Life is unfair to me." Pause and notice where you had placed your ideas of good and bad.

Return to what is still yours: honest and responsible action now. You may still grieve without turning the disappointment into resentment toward the whole of life.

Reflection Question

When things go badly, what are you most afraid of losing? What does that answer say about what you value most?